We live in a time where the possibilities truly are endless. We also live in a time where our biggest limitation is ourselves. I don’t make resolutions, what’s the point of them? After all, we typically don’t stick to them and then use our inability to follow through as another sad excuse for self-loathing. We’re human, we’re going to make mistakes and we aren’t always going to keep the promises we make to ourselves.
In my life, I only have one resolution and that is to consistently become bigger, better and badder versions of my current self. This sticks with me throughout the year, not just the beginning of it. In this post, I really want the focal point to be the importance of self-love and raising your standards for your life.
One of the most intimidating qualities a person can possess, especially a woman, is knowing his/her worth. I say intimidating not because it’s actually intimidating in the true sense of the word, but rather because it is something that other people are intimidated by. It took me an incredibly long time to fully understand this. The moment you choose to love yourself enough to know your worth and thereby raise your standards in a parallel capacity is the moment you say to the world, “I’m not going to just accept whatever it is that you choose to give me. I will accept what I deserve!”
Then your life reflects that…
I’ve become perplexed by this idea that there’s something wrong with having high standards for yourself. Only people who don’t believe they can reach those standards will try to make you believe you’re wrong for having them or having them so high in the first place. So you must simply refuse to pay any attention to those people and their wishes. I truly believe that it’s better to be without certain people or situations that don’t truly resonate with the person you’re trying to become than to be brought down by them. Because, essentially, that’s what happens when you don’t have standards for yourself or lower them to acquire certain people/things, you’re making a conscious decision to settle and therefore equate yourself with less than you truly are. That doesn’t make sense to me, no situation/person is worth that!
Let people know, “I like what I like and I’m not prepared to sacrifice it to make you feel comfortable!”
There’s so much power in owning what resonates with you.
You’ve got to get to a place where you’re ready to fully commit to the lifestyle of who you want to be even if you’re not completely there yet. The starting point is raising your standards to reflect those of that lifestyle.
Become confident in who you are, your worth and your abilities!
I think the driving force behind so many people feeling scared of doing this is because they’re scared people won’t like them. Well, guess what, all people aren’t going to like you. They’re especially not going to like you when they want to be like you or wish they could be doing what you’re doing. But, guess what?! That’s not your problem. It’s not your problem that their vision of their lives and who they are is so limited that they can only expend energy on trying to make you feel bad for stepping into and owning the fullness of who you really are and your destiny. The only thing you can do to really and I mean really help them is to keep being amazing and then, hopefully, at some point they will realize that they, too, can emulate the path you’ve chosen to take.
In this life, you’ve got to lead by example. 99% of people are sheep and don’t even know it. It is this sheep mentality which prevents you from accessing your true and divine power. Do you want to be a sheep or do you want to be the shepherd? You’re living your life for a reason, accept the responsibility that comes with that, to honor God or the Universe in how you live your life. You’re never going to get anywhere you truly want to be by choosing to be herded in the same direction as people who think that’s the only way to live life because they don’t know any better. If you’re reading this, then I trust that you know better, so do better!
Stop being passive in your life, your dreams and what you want! It’s all out there for you to have, you’ve just got to get out of your own way and use your large vision as motivation instead of seeing it as an insurmountable obstacle.
You will gain your strength and power in what you walk away from, not what you choose to stay in out of fear. And if they don’t like you because of that, tell them to grab a ticket and get in line. Namsayin’?
Love yourself enough to raise your standards and not be apologetic about it.
Say to yourself, “I love myself so much that I couldn’t care less if you do or not!”
The moment you start really loving yourself is the moment your life really starts changing.
Immense self-love is what will keep you from settling for mediocrity in every aspect of your life and help you to continuously graduate into the best versions of yourself. All of your power lies in how much you love yourself.
The greatest gifts you can ever give yourself are unconditional love and forgiveness.
In 2015, I challenge you to love yourself so damn much that it makes people feel like they can’t be around you until they learn how to love themselves in the same way. I challenge you to refuse to stifle your evolution to make other people comfortable. I challenge you to raise your standards and trust that in doing this you will attract the perfect people and situations that are in alignment with this bold act of self-love. I challenge you to dream bigger and live as fearlessly as you possibly can. All of the amazing things that you want reside in that place many are too terrified to get to.
Happy New Year you guys! AND thank you so much for supporting me on my journey. I love you all more than words can say!!!