All of you insecure people out there who think it’s okay to take it out on other people out there! Listen up! Your time is up!
Don’t let the fact that someone is so unhappy with him/herself knock you off your “A” game!
Right now in my life I’m experiencing first hand the negativity that comes with spending a great deal of time around an incredibly insecure person. Now, for the record, everyone is insecure to an extent, whether it be about something small or something big, we all have insecurities. The problem with people like the person who inspired this post, however, is that he/she goes out of his/her way to make the people around him/her feel bad about themselves.
It’s true, misery does love company, and a miserably insecure person will do whatever he/she can to get you to feel like him/her. BUT, you have to rise above it and this is the difficult part, especially if you can’t readily and easily leave the situation. In having to quickly to adapt to this person being in my environment, I have had to really develop thick skin as well as a “let it roll off my back” mentality…
I come from a place of always trying to be respectful towards people because frankly we’re all human and we all have reasons for why we are the way that we are. I try not to judge. I try to view even the worst situations through eyes of love, compassion, and empathy and sometimes that’s the toughest part, trying to excuse the actions of someone else. It’s frustrating because you know that there are people all over the world who have had difficult lives and experiences in their lives yet they’re still able to grow up and respect other people and not be consistently negative. So it’s like you find yourself asking the question, “Well, why should this person get a pass to act like this and treat others this way?”
The answer is that they don’t.
Every situation is different, mine for instance is difficult because I don’t feel like I’m in a position where right now is a good time to leave, however I know in my heart that I won’t be able to stay in this situation for an extended period of time. I believe that in some shape, form, or fashion the negative energy that you put out in the universe and all of the negative that you do towards other people always comes back around. I don’t want to call it karma because that sometimes can have a negative connotation and I don’t wish bad on anyone. I just feel that ultimately it’s inevitable for that negative energy to come back around, doesn’t mean that something bad has to happen to this person, heck the negative energy could just be a prime example of how miserable they are and will continue to be.
Truly miserable people can’t help but to give off negative energy and it is often these people who could pull themselves out their misery, yet they’d rather be boastful, egotistical, and condescending towards others, even though deep down they know they’re simply projecting their own insecurities on everyone around them.
See if there’s one thing I know for sure it’s that when a miserable person has happy people all around him/her those happy people are like mirrors, a mirror full of qualities that this individual wishes he/she had. Think of it this way, technically everything you see in a mirror is half an illusion, you can see the reflection of something in the mirror, but if you try to touch it by touching the mirror you never can get it. You see it, but you can’t have it, that’s how a miserable person sees positive qualities in other people, as a consistent reminder of something he/she wants but can’t have or wants to be, but can’t be. At least that’s what he/she believes to be true.
So he/she sees this quality in the mirror, can’t have it, yet all they have is him/herself in the end, staring right back at him/her. It never goes away for a miserable person. The only reflection they see is of themselves and often times they can’t stand themselves.
As the positive and happy person that you are, you’re not trying to be a mirror, but you can’t help it, but what you don’t need to be in this situation is a sponge. You don’t need to absorb the negative energy, nor do you need to allow the person who’s projecting his/her insecurities on you to awake your dormant ones or cause new ones to be created.
Could I walk away from this current situation and remove this person out of my life for good? Yes, I could. However, if I’m completely honest, I’m not ready to do that yet, I want to toughen my own self up. Miserable people are everywhere and are impossible to remove from your life completely, so I’m prepping myself up for the next one. I have simply made the decision to not let someone else’s insecurities affect my own sense of self and self-worth and the chance to turn this opportunity into something great.
I have chosen to remain dignified and respectful and wait for exactly the right moment. I trust that the universe will let me know, so until that time arrives I know I must continue to douse this person and future situations with respect and kindness and prayer.
This is an important lesson to learn, learning how not to let someone else’s negative energy even slightly taint yours. Plus, the best way to really get to a rude insecure person is to show him/her that his/her ploy to drag you down and mire you in his/her misery is to show him/her how ineffective their ploy really is! =]
Have you ever had or experienced a similar situation? If so, how did you deal with it?